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I've also deliberately kept a few [now-]closed places online on the site as part of documenting gay history. The gay-friendliness of your hometown didn't matter; all that mattered was that you had a stable dial-up connection and access to a keyboard. Join our community to meet people and share experiences Sign up. I'm not sure what the general consensus of younger gay men is, if there is one, but I imagine there might be a sense that the older generations were sort of hiding in shame when we did this. The gays have been using the internet to get laid since AOL launched chat rooms to Friendster, but with Craigslist and Manhunt ruining their formulas, what is a homo with a hard-on to do now?
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Military bases? Shopping center toilets in Guam or Manila? The man who wrote about taking his inch dildo to an adult bookstore and how he wanted to return with his Great Dane? I don't know if people are writing about factual experiences or the "true experiences" they wish they had, but generally you can tell from a pattern of reviews—just as with Yelp or whatever—what the character of a place is like. I have vague memories of TV reporters using bathroom busts to stoke anti-gay hysteria during television sweeps week.
Were you an active user of Cruising for Sex at the time?
If so, what was it like to live through that? I had been using Cruising for Sex in the late 90s. I think we all understood that this type of publicity happened for ratings purposes, even before the site.
How you behaved in a park or at a beach—I lived in San Diego County then—really involved having to have discretion and common sense anyhow, regardless of [whether it was] sweeps. This still goes on, although I don't know if it's specifically tied into the old Nielsen ratings periods or if there's some other criteria. See the September 28, review , where TV reporters accompanied sheriff's deputies on a raid on a porn theater. This particular place has seen repeated raids and publicity, but it's unusual for reporters to be present at a raid.
Given that cruising is older than civilization, do you think the site will survive in some form in perpetuity? I don't think we can forecast any site or particular media surviving in perpetuity, but I think this type information will still be created and disseminated and used. Are there any listings that seem political, besides the Vatican?
It hasn't had any reviews since then. I'm surprised no one has, shall we say, embroidered on that one. I've also deliberately kept a few [now-]closed places online on the site as part of documenting gay history. One example is the Bijou Theater in Chicago. Some men had shame, but many of us were often having the time of our lives, being transgressive, making our own rules, or simply breaking them all. What do you think today's generation of gays misunderstand about the men who risked their lives to have sex in parks and toilet stalls? I'm not sure what the general consensus of younger gay men is, if there is one, but I imagine there might be a sense that the older generations were sort of hiding in shame when we did this.
I'm 54, by the way. I remember Laud Humphrey's writings about the "Tearoom Trade," which was the generation before me. The idea of having a difference between the "private self" and the "public self" seems old-fashioned these days, not just in sexuality but in so many parts of life.
The world's most complete gay directory to practice Cruising. Cruising is rapidly becoming a lost art. I was at the Temple Bar in Detroit last night. It's a popular spot with LGBT people, though it isn't a gay bar, per se.
People broadcast themselves on social media now and have personal or intimate phone calls in public places, a genuine change from days past. Some men had shame, but many of us were often having the time of our lives, being transgressive, making our own rules, or simply breaking them all, although not necessarily all of the time. The shadows of that life provided a place for a lot of freedom and self-exploration, a "room of one's own" where you didn't have to identify or explain yourself or be some kind of example.
There were no cameras in every pocket and ceiling, and your acts could be as private as you wanted or on the edge of public display. I recall fucking someone at the edge of a park with a clear view across a canyon, and it was exciting, putting on a show where you were almost certain there was no audience. These days you might have more reason to wonder who or what was watching. In the late 90s, gay men looking for anonymous, public sex headed to CruisingforSex.
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