Dedicated lesbian venues will also hold their own events which range from meet ups, through to book clubs and queer movie nights. A word of warning: My best advice is: Although Tokyo and Osaka are home to two of the biggest scenes in the country, they are not the be all and end all. Nagoya and Hyogo both have a notable scene and even Fukuoka has a lesbian bar!
As with all places, sometimes it just takes a bit of a digging. The top three recommended apps for Japan in my opinion are:. There is mixed success with these apps depending on where you live and who is available in your area. OKCupid leans heavily towards foreign, English speaking women whilst Spindle is the opposite. You will need at least a little Japanese under your belt for the latter.
With a bit of patience it can pay off however.
Never fear, there is Pride here! Both Tokyo and Osaka play host to a Pride parade once a year. Labels When I first arrived I was forewarned that there are a number of labels in the Japanese scene. Without going into too many details there are three key terms you may or may not come across:. To put it bluntly, Japanese women still adhere very closely to gender roles in some cases so be prepared.
It is important to note that in Japan most, if not all women are in the closet, and if you happen to choose to date a Japanese woman, or a woman with Japanese heritage here in Japan, you will quickly need to accept the rules of privacy that come along with that. Most, if not all women are not out at work, and I can safely say that this also applies to a large proportion of the foreign lesbian community working here in either teaching or professional positions.
Whether or not you decide to come out in your workplace is entirely up to you.
There are mixed opinions surrounding this, and it will always be a contentious issue. At home, a bit of gloating about your weekend exploits was standard fare where I was from; however, Japan is a different beast.
Civil unions have been legalized in cities across the country, and LGBT couples are slowly winning the right to adopt in places like Osaka. Searching with Surge: Have you ever used a dating app or site in Japan? Labels When I first arrived I was forewarned that there are a number of labels in the Japanese scene. App Store Preview. This is because they are quite literally trying to find you a suitable husband. Japan Wine Festival.
There are co-workers I socialise with outside of work who are aware of my dating habits; however the majority of my colleagues have no idea. The following is based on the opinion and experiences of the author. She does not claim to be an expert in anything other than drinking copious amounts of alcohol and making an arse of herself on the dance floor.
One of the most important things you could do is to join the special interest group Stonewall Japan. Being Out in the Workplace Japan has come a long way, but it still has miles to go before queer people in Japan have full rights.
Unlike western countries where discrimination is practiced under the basis of religion, Japanese opposition to homosexuality stems from the idea that people have a duty to create traditional one man one woman families and must make an effort to procreate. Coming out in your workplace will be something that you will need to test the waters on. There are no discrimination laws protecting you from being fired from your job for your orientation, so you will need to weigh the benefits against the risks of being out in your office.
People can, have been, and unfortunately probably will in the future be fired for their orientation. You might work next to the same people for years, speak to them on a daily basis, and know nothing more about them than their last name.
This provides an option for you to keep your private life separate from your work life. Some queer JETs have even found ways to incorporate current events into their lessons and have been pillars of strength for queer students that feel alone in the world. Bars and Social Scenes Most prefectures yes, even the small, remote ones will have some sort of hangout area or bar for guys who like guys. The best way to find these places in your area is to get in contact with fellow queer people around where you live.
This is a list of apps that you should install into your smartphone (iPhone, Android , etc In Japan, there are two popular gay dating apps - Jack'd and 9monsters. This application is published in accordance with Google's policy. Image has been censored. Posting of obscene images will be prohibited. Please note that.
A lot of them will have mixed nights though where you can bring all of your friends along with you. Dating apps provide a unique way to meet new people that share your interests. Also remember—you are a professional international ambassador, so please be mindful if you feel to need to exchange racy pictures. One guy actually said he preferred to talk and date online exclusively. Other foreign female users I spoke with had similar results, so this might not be a good choice if you are seriously looking to meet someone. When you join, you are given an automatic points to use in order to meet and match with others based on your own search parameters.
Pairs is another online dating site, and one that has had numerous TV and train commercials since going online. This site and its related app also uses your Facebook profile, but allows you to hide your full name, enabling its users to go by initials instead. Zexy Koimusubi is a dating app that is part of a popular Japanese wedding services company.
The app overall works on the same principles of matching based on shared interests, and uses your Facebook profile to compile this data, but otherwise it seems to have a fairly high success rate.
This is because they are quite literally trying to find you a suitable husband. Good luck in finding the best for yourself, ladies! Have you ever used a dating app or site in Japan? Share your experiences in the comments. Love In Japan: Letters from Japan: I Want A Divorce. By Hilary Keyes. By Kiri Falls. If you're just getting into the dating scene in Japan, you have plenty of options to choose from when it comes to meeting men — Online Dating In Japan: English, Japanese Fees: Free, special features require a monthly subscription Popularity: English, Japanese, and others Fees: JapanCupid Not to be confused with OkCupid, JapanCupid is a part of the Cupid Media Group, a niche-based dating site group, that connects users with people from around the world rather than just in their immediate area.
MatchAlarm MatchAlarm is a dating app that recommends a new person to you every morning at 8 a. Japanese Fees: Offers in-app purchases Popularity: Omiai The largest online dating site and app service in Japan that relies on your Facebook profile to search for your ideal match.